“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me!” I used to recite that cute little ditty when I was a young child. It was supposed to keep me safe from any verbal assaults I might experience at the hands of other children. It didn’t always help, but it was a useful parenting tool!
As an adult, I’m supposed to be experienced and savvy enough to take things as they come, and not have to rely on rhymes to help me cope with worldly hurts. I have a tendency to disassociate from painful emotions, ignore them, and put something logical in their place. That causes its own problems.
For example, on October 11, 2012, I posted an article: “Jesus Is The Only Way To Salvation.” I often post my articles on several different Facebook groups, as well as make reference to them on Twitter. This particular article was not well received on two related Facebook groups of which I’m a member, and the insults and criticisms I received as a result, should have triggered warning signs of emotional collateral damage.
Upon reading the comments, my husband asked me if I was alright. “Oh yes!” I replied, “After all, I can’t expect everyone to appreciate my beliefs!” Yeah, right! I was hurt, deep down! I felt humiliated and rejected. I couldn’t acknowledge it at the time, however. It wasn’t until the “symptoms” of a problem began to emerge that I took a second look at the whole incident.
Months had gone by, and I had stopped posting on Facebook, my article writing was sporadic and reposts began to take up space. It was beginning to look like PTSD!!
I know it all sounds so melodramatic, but I realized after some thought and prayer, that, in publishing my article, “Jesus Is The Only Way To Salvation,” I was sharing my most treasured belief. I had laid my heart wide open for all to see. I had considered my article to be a precious gift. I really did know that I couldn’t expect all people to share my feelings about that gift, but it also did not occur to me that it would be so hatefully received!
The first Scripture I chose to read was Romans 12:14, “Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.” That gave me some valuable insight as to where I needed to be headed emotionally. And then I gained some further insight from this Scripture, “We are hard-pressed on every side, yet not crushed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed.” 2 Corinthians 4:8-9.
I look at those verses and deep down inside, a little child’s voice begins to sing; sticks and stones…
God bless you all!